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The Former Peer Problem: The Survival Guide for New Managers Promoted Over Their Friends
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Publisher: Independently Published
Pages: 300
Weight: 0.89
Height: 0.63 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Every year, hundreds of thousands of first-time managers get handed a title and no training for the one thing that makes the job hardest: leading the people who used to sit next to them. The friend whose desk you stopped at every morning is now your direct report. The rival who wanted your job is sitting twelve feet away. The team Slack channel you used to vent in is now a channel you are supposed to lead.
This is the book your company should have given you.
The Former Peer Problem is a 90-day survival guide for first-time managers promoted from inside their own team, written by a Stanford GSB-trained leadership coach with more than a decade of experience helping new managers through their first ninety days.
By the end of 90 days, you will have:-Run the reset conversation with every former peer, including The Friend, The Rival, and The Person Who Thought They Were Next
-Held a first team meeting that signals change without performing authority
-Installed weekly practices for clarity, delegation, feedback, and performance
-Held the line in hard conversations you would have avoided in week two
-Built the presence, trust, and cross-functional relationships that determine which kind of manager you become
What makes this different from every other new manager bookBuilt for the specific transition. Most management books assume you are walking into a team of strangers. This one is written for the case most first-time managers actually face: being promoted over people you already know.
Real scripts for real moments. The reset conversation. The early performance talk. The conflict mediation. The compensation question. What to say when someone asks what you make. What to say when someone wants to quit. Everything a new manager needs, in the exact words you can adapt and use on Monday.
The hardest situations, covered in full. Letting someone go. Managing across difference. Compensation dynamics. Remote and hybrid work. The phase when you want to quit. The things other new-manager books skip.
Three complete reference tools: a printable 90-Day Companion Calendar, a full Script Library organized by situation, and a Day-90 Self-Assessment designed to be re-run every ninety days for the rest of your career.
This book is for you if:You were just promoted into your first management role, or are about to be. You are six months in and the transition still feels unfinished. You are managing former peers and finding it harder than you expected. You want specific, actionable guidance, not inspirational leadership theory, that you can use starting Monday morning.
You do not need to become a different person to become a stronger manager. You need a new way to think, a new way to act, and a stronger leadership presence.
Start with the week you are probably in right now.
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