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Why Do I Want to Run When People Get Close?: Understanding the Impulse to Push Away Connection and Feel Like You're Always Bothering Someone
Paperback
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Nov 1 2025
Pages: 58
Weight: 0.20
Height: 0.12 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Do you push people away just when they get close?
Feel like you're always bothering everyone?
Panic when someone shows they genuinely want you around?
You're not imagining it. And you're not broken.
If intimacy triggers the urge to run, if you feel like a burden in every relationship, if closeness feels threatening even when it's what you long for-this book is for you.
Inside, you'll discover:
- Why the impulse to run is a protection response, not a character flaw
- What this pattern protected you from and why it made sense
- How attachment patterns shape the way you relate to others
- Why you feel like you're always bothering people
- What happens in your nervous system when intimacy triggers panic
- The shame that comes with these patterns and how to release it
- Practical strategies for staying present when you want to disappear
- How to build safety in connection with the right people
This isn't about forcing yourself to change or shaming yourself for your responses. It's about understanding them with compassion and learning to work with your nervous system rather than against it.
The impulse to run when people get close isn't a failure. It's a survival strategy. And you can learn to update it.
You're not too much. You're not a burden. And the fact that intimacy feels threatening doesn't mean you're incapable of it. It means you learned to protect yourself in the only way that was available.
Now you can learn to stay.
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