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The Divorce Instinct: Rebuilding a Financial Identity After the Split That Took Half of Everything
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Publisher Price: $29.99
ISBN13: 9781804281123
Publisher: Readers First Publishing Ltd
Published: Jul 30 2026
Pages: 224
Weight: 0.67
Height: 0.47 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
The Divorce Instinct: Rebuilding a Financial Identity After the Split That Took Half of Everything
Divorce doesn't just divide your assets in half; it dissolves the financial identity you built as part of a couple. Long after the settlement is signed and the paperwork is finalized, you may find yourself unexpectedly paralyzed by everyday money decisions that used to feel automatic.
In The Divorce Instinct, Jordan Ellis explores the unseen psychological work of unwinding a merged financial self. Rather than focusing on legal settlements or asset division, this book reveals how deep-seated instincts like loss aversion, attachment, and identity fusion turn practical money matters into emotional minefields.
Drawing on behavioral economics and relationship science, this guide will help you identify and overcome predictable post-divorce traps, including:
- The Guilt You Keep Paying Down: Why you might continue funding an ex-spouse's expenses to avoid the discomfort of losing your identity as a provider.
- The Fortress You Built From the Rubble: How a rigid, hyper-vigilant financial system built to protect you can quietly prevent you from enjoying your new life.
- The House That Won't Let Go: Why you might drain your budget to keep a shared home rather than letting go of the future you once imagined.
- The Ghost at the Kitchen Table: How to stop silently consulting your ex-partner's financial rules instead of trusting your own independent judgment.
- The Fairness You Can't Stop Litigating: Why you repeatedly recalculate the fairness of your settlement and how to finally close the mental ledger.
The Divorce Instinct offers concrete, psychological overrides to help you break these patterns and regain your financial confidence. It is time to stop running your finances on an old operating system. Discover how to rebuild a financial self that belongs entirely to you, designed on purpose, and answerable to no one else's rulebook.
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