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The Psychology of Fear of Love
Paperback
Series: The Divided Self, Book 2
Publisher: Pale Horse Press
Published: Mar 30 2026
Pages: 188
Weight: 0.49
Height: 0.43 Width: 5.50 Depth: 8.50
Language: English
The Psychology of the Fear of Love:
Why We Must Heal Before We Seek Love
Why do people sometimes destroy the very relationships they long for?
Why does real love trigger fear, withdrawal, or sudden emotional collapse?
In The Psychology of the Fear of Love, psychotherapist and Sunday Times bestselling author Christine Joanna Hart explores the hidden psychological forces that cause people to sabotage relationships that might otherwise have brought them genuine love.
Through the story of an intense and deeply transformative relationship, Hart examines how early emotional wounds can shape adult intimacy. When love appears, the parts of the psyche that were once hurt may rise up to protect the vulnerable self. What looks like self-sabotage is often something else entirely.
It is protection.
Drawing on lived experience and her later work as a psychotherapist and couples counsellor in Richmond, Surrey, Hart explores the psychology of trauma, emotional self-protection, and the fear of intimacy that can silently undermine relationships.
This book explores:
- fear of love and fear of intimacy
- trauma and emotional self-protection
- why people sabotage good relationships
- protector parts in the psyche
- childhood wounds and adult intimacy
- healing the divided self
Part psychological memoir and part investigation into the hidden dynamics of love, The Psychology of the Fear of Love reveals why understanding the inner world of the psyche is often the key to building real and lasting relationships.
Hart now works with individuals and couples helping them understand the deeper emotional forces shaping their relationships through trauma-informed psychotherapy and parts-based psychological insight.
This book forms part of The Divided Self Series, exploring trauma, identity, human darkness, and the recovery of the authentic self.
This is lived experience, not armchair theory.
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