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Friendships That Don't Kill You: Healing Social Circles, Spotting Sabotage, and Relearning Connection
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Series: Used to Survive, Book 6
Publisher Price: $29.99
Publisher: Buildingblocs Publishing
Published: Apr 4 2026
Pages: 102
Weight: 0.57
Height: 0.21 Width: 8.50 Depth: 11.00
Language: English
Book 6 of the Used to Survive Recovery Series
What if the greatest threat to your sobriety isn't a substance-but a person?
Friendships That Don't Kill You is the book every recovery program forgets to include: a real-world guide to rethinking your social circle after addiction. Because when your friendships were built on chaos, codependency, or shared destruction, sobriety can feel like exile.
From the Foreword
In residential programs, I see men relapse as often from unhealthy friendships as from cravings. This book names the grief of letting go and shows how to build safer circles with practical tools you can use the day you realize someone is pulling you back. In my view, it's one of the most practical and life-saving volumes in the series.
- Brian Wall, LPC-S, LAC, Division Director, Men's Residential Behavioral Health Services, South Carolina Department of Corrections
This book doesn't just tell you to make better friends. It gives you the tools to:
-Spot sabotaging relationships that expect you to fail
-Set boundaries without setting fire to everything
-Grieve old connections that can't come with you
-Choose connection over isolation, even when trust feels risky
-Relearn what healthy friendship looks like, feels like, and sounds like in action
With scripts, checklists, emotional self-assessments, and peer-support planning tools, this book becomes your recovery companion for building relationships that don't destroy you.
Perfect for outpatient groups, peer mentorship programs, and self-paced healing, this volume provides both clarity and courage for anyone trying to rebuild connection while staying clean.
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