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Betrayed: Pains, Consequences & The Way Forward - When betrayal breaks you, the journey back to yourself becomes sacred.
Paperback
Metaphysical GeneralAbuseSelf-Help
ISBN13: 9781067939861
Publisher: Restoration House Publishing
Published: Jul 18 2026
Pages: 704
Weight: 2.04
Height: 1.55 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Have you ever sat on the floor, staring at nothing, and whispered - But he was my brother... But she was my friend... But they were my family.?
If so, this book was written for you.
Betrayed: Pains, Consequences & The Way Forward does what few books dare to do: it names betrayal plainly, traces it honestly, and charts a clear path toward healing - without minimizing the wound or rushing the journey.
Drawing on five powerful streams of wisdom - Scripture, psychology and neuroscience, African communal wisdom, sociology and history, and decades of pastoral experience - theologian and author Adebowale Toki offers the most comprehensive treatment of betrayal trauma available in Christian literature today.
WHAT THIS BOOK COVERS
Part One - The Pains: Beginning with the anatomy of betrayal as a universal human wound, this section traces the biblical patterns of broken trust from Eden to Golgotha. Through the stories of David and Ahithophel, Judas and Peter, the book reveals that betrayal is not accidental to the human story - it is woven into it, and Scripture speaks to every layer of it.
Part Two - The Consequences: Betrayal does not end when the betrayer walks away. This section examines with clinical precision what betrayal does to the brain, the body, the nervous system, and the soul - drawing on the landmark research of Jennifer Freyd (Betrayal Trauma Theory), Bessel van der Kolk, Judith Herman, and Stephen Porges (Polyvagal Theory). It also examines betrayal across every relationship context: marriage, family, workplace, spiritual leadership, and public life.
Part Three - The Way Forward: Combining spiritual disciplines, psychological frameworks, and the proverbial wisdom of Yoruba, Igbo, Akan, Swahili, and Zulu traditions, this section provides a complete toolkit for moving from devastation to destiny - not by pretending the wound didn't happen, but by allowing it to become the beginning of something new.
FOR EVERY READER
- The survivor of intimate betrayal who needs someone to name what happened without flinching
- The leader wounded by those they served, who wonders whether trust can ever be rebuilt
- The believer wrestling with how a good God allows such pain
- The therapist or counsellor seeking a resource that speaks both faith and psychology with equal fluency
- The person who simply needs to know that their story is not over
From Lagos to Calgary. From the Psalms to the neuroscience laboratory. From the proverb keeper to the trauma therapist.
This is not a book that hedges. Betrayal is betrayal. Healing is possible. And your story is not over.
When betrayal breaks you, the journey back to yourself becomes sacred.
- Adebowale Toki
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