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Covert Emotional Incest: The Hidden Sexual Abuse: A Story of Hope and Healing
Paperback
Publisher Price: $19.99
Publisher: Selfpublishing.com
Published: Apr 19 2026
Pages: 292
Weight: 0.87
Height: 0.66 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Many survivors know something was wrong in childhood but struggle to name it. There was no overt sexual abuse, yet boundaries were crossed, roles were reversed, and a child carried emotional burdens meant for adults.
Covert Emotional Incest: The Hidden Sexual Abuse by Adena Bank Lees brings language, clarity, and validation to one of the most misunderstood forms of childhood trauma. Covert Emotional Incest (CEI) occurs when a parent unconsciously relies on a child to meet adult emotional or relational needs, leaving lasting impacts on identity, intimacy, and self-worth.
Comparable to Trauma and Recovery, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and The Body Keeps the Score, this book blends personal narrative, clinical insight, and decades of therapeutic experience. Lees reassures survivors that they are not crazy and that their symptoms are natural responses to an invisible but profound injury.
This revised edition includes composite case vignettes that reveal how CEI unfolds in different families and how it persists across generations. Grounded in Judith Herman's three-stage model of trauma recovery and informed by experiential approaches such as psychodrama and Internal Family Systems, the book offers ethical, practical guidance for clinicians while remaining deeply accessible to survivors.
In this book, readers will find:
- Clear explanations of covert emotional incest and its lifelong effects
- Composite case vignettes illustrating CEI across diverse family systems
- Trauma-informed guidance grounded in Judith Herman's recovery model
- Clinical insight using psychodrama and Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- Validation, hope, and a path toward healthy boundaries and healing
This revised edition is both a beacon for survivors and an essential resource for therapists.
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