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Why Can't I Change?: 7 Truths Revealing Why You Feel Stuck in Personal Development and How to Move Forward With Ease
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CognitionGeneral Alternative HealthGeneral Psychology
ISBN13: 9781919520902
Publisher: Inspired by Publishing
Published: Apr 30 2026
Pages: 214
Weight: 0.56
Height: 0.45 Width: 5.50 Depth: 8.50
Language: English
Why does change feel so hard, even when you're doing everything right?
Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much mindset work you do, how many books you read, courses you attend or how hard you try, real change just doesn't seem to last?
If you've ever found yourself asking, What's wrong with me? this book offers an answer that reframes the question entirely.
In Why Can't I Change?, Dr Ishy Bruce and Sebastian Attewell reveal the missing pieces in personal transformation that most of the personal development world has overlooked. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology and years of real-world experience, they show you why lasting change has never been about willpower, discipline or positive thinking - and most importantly, why failure was never your fault.
This book gently dismantles the myths you've been taught about change and replaces them with a compassionate understanding of how the mind, body and nervous system actually work together. Rather than pushing you to fix yourself, the authors guide you to create the one condition every system needs in order to change: safety.
Inside this book, you'll discover how to:
- Understand why your brain and nervous system resist change, even when you want it
- Identify the hidden beliefs and protective patterns keeping you stuck
- Stop fighting resistance and learn how to work with it instead
- Let go of outdated identities without force, shame, or overwhelm
- Move beyond mindset work alone and include the body in transformation
- Use AlphaTapping, a simple yet powerful technique, to calm your nervous system and support deep change
Why Can't I Change? doesn't ask you to try harder. It shows you how to stop fighting yourself, and finally become who you were always meant to be.
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