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What We Really Want in Bed: Understanding the Sexual Desires of Men and Women
Paperback
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Jul 28 2025
Pages: 76
Weight: 0.25
Height: 0.16 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
In this groundbreaking and compassionate guide, psychotherapist Dr. Richard L. Travis invites readers into the most intimate corners of human connection: where desire, vulnerability, identity, and pleasure meet. Drawing from decades of clinical experience, real-life stories, and the latest research, What We Really Want in Bed helps men, women, and couples navigate the complex emotional and psychological terrain of sex in today's world.
Inside, you'll discover:
- How male and female desire actually work (hint: not how Hollywood says they do)
- The emotional dynamics that fuel or block intimacy
- How shame, trauma, aging, and cultural myths shape our sexuality
- Tools to talk about sex with less fear and more confidence
- The power of erotic blueprints, responsive desire, and fantasy mapping
Because what you want in bed is not too much. It's human. And it matters.
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