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The Red Flags Were Pretty So I Ignored the Blood: Unromantic Poems for the Addicted Heart
Paperback
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Jun 29 2025
Pages: 236
Weight: 0.71
Height: 0.50 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
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These poems felt like someone finally put my silence into words. I didn't even know how much I needed this.
- Jasmine R., Chicago, IL - Domestic Violence Advocate
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- Miguel T., Phoenix, AZ - Middle School Teacher
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This book walked me out of a relationship I didn't know was killing me. Every poem hit where I had no words.
- Amber V., Asheville, NC - Freelance Designer
The Red Flags Were Pretty-So I Ignored the Blood
Love Letters to the Me That Didn't Know Better
You saw the signs. You ignored them. And then you blamed yourself when it all came crashing down.
This isn't a love story. It's a survival story.
The Red Flags Were Pretty-So I Ignored the Blood is a raw, gut-punching poetry collection for anyone who's ever stayed too long in something that nearly destroyed them. These are the poems you write in the aftermath-the ink smeared with mascara tears, the truth you whisper to yourself at 2 a.m., the rage you buried under polite smiles, and the self-worth you clawed your way back to.
Written like a series of unapologetic love letters to your former self, this book explores:
Narcissistic manipulation disguised as devotion
The ache of loving someone unstable while losing yourself
Gaslighting, guilt, and the silence that shatters you
The unholy art of learning boundaries too late
The sacred fire of reclaiming your power, your body, your voice
This is for the ones who loved too hard, forgave too often, and finally decided they were worth more than just survival.
If you've ever said, I should've left sooner, this book is your closure.
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Raw, haunting, and somehow still healing. This is what poetry is supposed to do.
- David S., Brooklyn, NY - Social Worker
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I underlined half the book and cried through the rest. It cracked me open in the best way.
- Haley M., Spokane, WA - Nurse Practitioner
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This isn't poetry for show. It's truth. It's survival. It's the kind of book you hand to someone you love and say, Read this. It'll explain everything.
- Toni L., Atlanta, GA - Photographer
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I didn't even know how much I'd buried until this book brought it up gently, and then powerfully. A sacred work.
- Reverend Jonathan C., Birmingham, AL - Pastor
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I've never felt so understood by a book of poems. It's like she reached into my past and handed me the closure I've been begging for.
- Sophia W., Denver, CO - Yoga Instructor
As a man who's survived emotional abuse, this was the first time I felt like someone believed me without needing proof.
- Marcus D., Seattle, WA - Chef
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Read it in one night. Then again slower the next week. Then gifted it to my sister. It's that important.
- Rachel K., New Orleans, LA - Musician
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It doesn't try to be pretty. It's better than that, it's real. And that's what makes it life-changing.
- Ava C., Portland, OR - Trauma Therapist
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This book helped me stop gaslighting myself. I thought I was the problem. These poems told me the truth.
- Elena G., Miami, FL - Content Strategist
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Each page was a mirror. Some shattered. Some healing. But every single one helped me come back to
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