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Stop Keeping Score: How to Build Fairness Without Resentment

Stop Keeping Score: How to Build Fairness Without Resentment

Solander, Kaia

Paperback

MarketingGeneral ParentingMental Health

ISBN10: 9309331372
ISBN13: 9789309331374
Publisher: Mindful Pages
Published: Aug 11 2026
Pages: 280
Weight: 0.83
Height: 0.63 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
If you have ever thought, I do more, and I am not supposed to say so, you already know how scorekeeping starts: not with pettiness, but with silence. Stop Keeping Score is a practical guide to ending relationship scorekeeping without giving up on fairness. It shows how private tallies grow into distance, how resentment distorts what you notice, and why the same argument keeps returning in different disguises. Kaia Solander helps you define what fair actually means for the two of you, then turn that definition into workable choices: a fair division of labour, clearer ownership of tasks, and shared visibility for the work that is easy to miss. You will learn to name emotional labour in relationships and the mental load without turning it into a competition, and to raise concerns using relationship communication scripts that reduce defensiveness. When conflict happens anyway, you will practise conflict repair that addresses impact and resets agreements instead of reopening the whole case. This book is for couples who care about each other and still feel stuck, for people who fear that asking will sound like criticism, and for partners who want less tension around chores, care, and responsibility. With simple household agreements and a lightweight couples check-in routine, you can replace silent scoring with shared reality: clearer expectations, fewer blow-ups, and a relationship where effort is negotiated openly rather than counted in secret.

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