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If You Have to Chase It, It's Not Love: "The Art of Attracting the Energy That's Meant for You"
Paperback
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Jun 1 2025
Pages: 116
Weight: 0.36
Height: 0.24 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
What if the love you're chasing is the very thing keeping you from the love you deserve?
If You Have to Chase It, It's Not Love is a soul-shaking, no-nonsense guide to breaking toxic cycles, healing attachment wounds, and rising into the kind of self-worth that doesn't beg-but attracts. With raw truth, poetic fire, and emotional clarity, this book gives you the tools to stop explaining yourself to the emotionally unavailable, stop mistaking intensity for intimacy, and start embodying the energy that real love rises to meet.
You'll learn how to:
Stop confusing chaos for chemistry
Walk away from almosts and emotional breadcrumbs
Reclaim your wholeness without apology
Attract connection through alignment, not chasing
Set standards that filter out the ones who aren't built for your depth
This is not another fix yourself to be loved book. This is a come home to yourself manifesto. Whether you're healing from heartbreak or rising into your next era of power, If You Have to Chase It, It's Not Love will remind you:
Love should feel like peace, not proof.
And the love that's truly for you? It won't make you run after it.
It'll recognize you-and stay.
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