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The Curiosity Pact: Foreplay for the mind. The lost art of knowing another
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Series: Xpert in Vital Living
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ISBN13: 9798251813227
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Mar 13 2026
Pages: 130
Weight: 0.40
Height: 0.28 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Mar 13 2026
Pages: 130
Weight: 0.40
Height: 0.28 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
For readers of Esther Perel, Brené Brown, and Lori Gottlieb comes a provocative, practical guide to the one thing that matters more than anything else in love: curiosity.
We've been told that great sex is about technique, that lasting love is about compatibility, and that connection is about finding the right person. But what if we've been looking in all the wrong places?
We've been told that great sex is about technique, that lasting love is about compatibility, and that connection is about finding the right person. But what if we've been looking in all the wrong places?
The Curiosity Pact turns everything you thought you knew about intimacy on its head. This easy to read guide reveals that the path to mind-blowing sex and profound connection doesn't begin in the bedroom-it begins with a single question, followed by a few more.
Drawing on cutting-edge research from neuroscience, attachment theory, and couples therapy, alongside personal anecdotes and experience, this book offers a radical reframe: curiosity is the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Inside, you'll discover:
Because the most exciting thing you can bring to the bedroom isn't a new toy-it's a mind that's still curious about the person beside you. Advance Praise
This book gave me language for something I've felt for years but couldn't name-that the best sex I've ever had was with people who were genuinely curious about me. Essential reading for anyone who wants love that lasts. Milo
Finally, a book that addresses the real reason relationships die: not from lack of love, but from lack of interest. Practical, vulnerable, and utterly convincing. Caro F
Drawing on cutting-edge research from neuroscience, attachment theory, and couples therapy, alongside personal anecdotes and experience, this book offers a radical reframe: curiosity is the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Inside, you'll discover:
- Why the End of History Illusion keeps us stuck in stale relationships-and how to break free
- The three thieves that rob us of connection (distraction, efficiency, and instant gratification)
- How to read your body's signals-constriction, expansion, and the resentment pulse-as guides to your deepest desires
- Practical scripts for asking the questions that open doors (without sounding like an interview)
- 50 unexpected ways to introduce profound novelty into long-term relationships
- Why safety is the secret ingredient to female desire-and how to cultivate it
- The art of listening that makes your partner feel truly seen
Because the most exciting thing you can bring to the bedroom isn't a new toy-it's a mind that's still curious about the person beside you. Advance Praise
This book gave me language for something I've felt for years but couldn't name-that the best sex I've ever had was with people who were genuinely curious about me. Essential reading for anyone who wants love that lasts. Milo
Finally, a book that addresses the real reason relationships die: not from lack of love, but from lack of interest. Practical, vulnerable, and utterly convincing. Caro F
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