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Stop Drinking And Change Your Life
Paperback
Publisher: Ian Bates
Published: Aug 12 2026
Pages: 266
Weight: 0.79
Height: 0.56 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
There's a sentence you already know, even if you've never let yourself hear it clearly.
This is costing me more than it's giving me. I don't recognize who I become after a drink. I can't do this anymore. It usually shows up late at night, alone - and gets dismissed by morning, renamed as stress, tiredness, or just how adults unwind.
You don't need a catastrophe to earn the right to change.
Stop Drinking And Change Your Life is a practical, no-nonsense toolkit for the exact moment an urge shows up, a room full of people expects a glass in your hand, or a morning after a slip threatens to spiral into something bigger than it needs to be. Counselor and hypnotherapist Ian Bates draws on CBT, AA, SMART Recovery, clinical psychology, and the sober curious movement - because no single tradition owns what actually helps, and you shouldn't have to pick a camp before you're allowed to use any of it.
Inside, you'll find real tools, not just theory:
- Urge Surfing - ride out a craving instead of obeying it
- DEADS - five fast moves for the moment the urge is loudest
- HALT, DISARM, and the ABC Model - catch the trigger before it catches you
- Scripts for social situations - so you're never caught without a plan
- Long-term tools for rebuilding identity, routine, and trust in yourself
- A full section for the people who love a drinker - because their recovery was never supposed to wait
You do not need to have lost the job, the marriage, or your health before your discomfort counts as real. If some part of you has been quietly keeping score, that's enough. Waiting for rock bottom is just another way of not looking - and you've already looked.
Turn the page whenever you're ready. There's no dramatic threshold to cross first. You already crossed it.
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