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The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark
Paperback
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Publisher Price: $22.00
Publisher: Elana Auerbach
Published: Feb 3 2026
Pages: 252
Weight: 0.98
Height: 0.53 Width: 7.00 Depth: 10.00
Language: English
That practice is The Sure Thing. A weekly relationship ritual so simple it fits into a real-life schedule. So effective it transformed not just her marriage but her entire relationship with pleasure, with her body, and with herself.
A Math major with an affection for discernment, Elana brings a uniquely structured, intentional approach to intimacy. By blending personal narrative with a practical methodology, she maps out how to make sexual satisfaction a reliable, consistent rhythm rather than a rare exception.
What the Experts Say:Reading The Sure Thing is like having a wise, loving friend cheering you on toward more joy and connection. - Dr. Laurie Mintz, psychologist and author of Becoming Cliterate
This is not a book about techniques. It is a guide to building a sustainable, personalized pleasure practice that grows deeper over time.
Inside, you will learn how to:
- Release Sexual Shame: Discover what you actually want and let go of performance pressure.
- Meet Resistance with Play: Turn frustration into curiosity and deep emotional connection.
- Reverse the Drift: Create a reliable, grounded rhythm for intimacy for couples.
- The Solo Sure: Cultivate self-love and self-worth on your own terms, whether you are single or your partner isn't ready yet.
Part memoir, part spiritual reflection, part practical guide: The Sure Thing makes pleasure feel possible again.
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