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Parentification: How to Heal from Being Your Parent's Parent, Reclaim Your Childhood, and Set Down the Weight You Were Never Meant to Carry
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Child PsychologyGeneral ParentingSelf-Help
Publisher Price: $18.97
Publisher: Dr. Iris Donovan
Published: Jul 16 2026
Pages: 162
Weight: 0.50
Height: 0.35 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
You grew up early.
Maybe you remember sitting with a crying parent, not knowing what to say but knowing you had to say something. Negotiating between fighting parents. Managing the household. Holding secrets and emotional crises that no child should carry.
This is parentification - when a child is assigned adult-level responsibilities, emotional caretaking functions, or psychological support roles they were never developmentally equipped to handle.
Parentification
is the compassionate, research-grounded guide to understanding the weight you were given, what it has cost, and - most importantly - how to finally set it down.
Inside you will discover:
- The two forms of parentification: instrumental and emotional
- How to recognize your own parentification experience
- The identity, relational, and health costs of chronic over-responsibility
- The inner critic, guilt, shame, and loneliness of the parentified adult
- The grief and anger essential to authentic recovery
- Reparenting yourself and reclaiming your needs
- Breaking the compulsive caretaker pattern in adult relationships
- Renegotiating the original family relationship as an adult
- The lightness of the set-down weight
The weight was never yours to carry.You have carried it long enough.Set it down. Come home to yourself.
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