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No Fats, No Femmes, No Future: How the Gay Dating Scene Learned to Hate Itself - and How We Unlearn It
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ISBN13: 9798297246249
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Aug 9 2025
Pages: 78
Weight: 0.22
Height: 0.16 Width: 5.50 Depth: 8.50
Language: English
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Aug 9 2025
Pages: 78
Weight: 0.22
Height: 0.16 Width: 5.50 Depth: 8.50
Language: English
In No Fats, No Femmes, No Future, Philip Garcia strips away the polite language of preferences to expose the quiet prejudices shaping gay dating culture. From the racial filters on apps to the unspoken body hierarchies of nightlife, this is an unflinching portrait of how exclusion - even when dressed as taste - erodes community and connection.
Garcia draws on lived experience, cultural critique, and compassionate challenge to explore:
- How shame shapes what - and who - we desire
- Why femmephobia still thrives inside queer spaces
- The impact of body worship and body hate
- How racial bias hides in just my type
- Practical steps to unlearn attraction scripts and widen your lens
- Building relationships based on soul connection, not surface appeal
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