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A Love of Your Own: Soothing the Anxious Heart When the Screen is Dark
Paperback
Series: Love & Attachment Wounds, Book 1
Death & DyingMental HealthSelf-Help
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Feb 8 2026
Pages: 122
Weight: 0.38
Height: 0.29 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
THE PHONE IS THE HEAVIEST OBJECT IN THE WORLD.
It weighs only six ounces, but when it is silent, it feels heavy enough to pin you to the floor.You check it when you wake up. You check it in the elevator. You check it in the dark. You are checking for a heartbeat-not yours, but his.
If you have an Anxious Attachment style, you know the exhaustion of being a meteorologist of someone else's mood. You spend your days scanning for micro-signals, analyzing the tone of a text, and holding your breath waiting for the ping that confirms you are safe.
But what happens when the signal doesn't come? What happens when you are standing in the elevator and the bars drop to No Service?
A LOVE OF YOUR OWN is not a dating guide. It will not teach you how to make him text back or how to play games to win affection.
Instead, this book invites you to stop waiting and start living.
Through the story of Bella-a capable woman crumbling inside a high-rise office-and grounded practices drawn from Eastern philosophy and trauma-informed psychology, Bodhi Tam guides you gently from the panic of the Dead Zone to the solid ground of your own life.
In these pages, you will learn how to:
Survive the Silence: Move from the Draft from the Vent (panic) to the Bedrock (grounding) when he doesn't reply.
Reclaim Your Nervous System: Simple, physical techniques like The Paperweight and The Unclench to stop the spiral instantly.
Generate Your Own Light: Stop acting like a mirror that only shines when he looks at you, and start becoming the lamp on the desk.
Build Boundaries: Not with anger, but with the quiet, administrative power of Sorting the Mail.
Sleep Without Waiting: A closing ritual to help you Clock Out from the job of managing the relationship.
You do not need the phone to ring to know that you are whole. You are whole right now. Even in the silence. Especially in the silence.
Put the heavy bag of waiting down. Open this book. And come home to yourself.
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