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The Designated One and the Long Goodbye: A Survival Guide for the Sibling Who Walks a Parent to the End
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Series: The Designated One, Book 2
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ISBN13: 9798199239189
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: May 30 2026
Pages: 88
Weight: 0.28
Height: 0.18 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: May 30 2026
Pages: 88
Weight: 0.28
Height: 0.18 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
You walked your parent through the years of decline. Now you have to walk them to the end.
This is the second book in the bestselling Designated One series - written for the adult sibling who, by accident or by default, has become the one running the show as a parent moves into the last months of life.
This is the second book in the bestselling Designated One series - written for the adult sibling who, by accident or by default, has become the one running the show as a parent moves into the last months of life.
You have done the binder. You have run the family meetings. You have built the systems. Now the work is shifting - from managing decline to walking your parent to the end - and almost nobody has prepared you for what comes next.
This book is the practical handbook for that walk.
Inside, you'll learn:
- The five signs of the soft slope - and how to know when the decline is real - A complete script for the hospice conversation, with your parent and with your siblings - What hospice actually is (and isn't) - and how to choose between home, facility, and inpatient - The five categories of conversations that cannot wait - What to do - and what NOT to do - in the first 72 hours after a death - How to run a funeral that holds dignity in the room when family dynamics get hard - The 90-day map of administrative, emotional, and relational work after the death - The reckoning that begins after the operational work is done
This book is for you if:
- Your parent is on a downward slope and you sense the conversation about hospice is coming - You are inside hospice care now and trying to make the months count - A parent has died recently and you are drowning in administrative work and grief at the same time - You read The Designated One and want the playbook for what happens next
Written by KV Rao - author of The Designated One and a four-decade enterprise operator who turned his attention to the work nobody hands you a manual for. Practical where most caregiving books are wistful. Candid where most are cautious. Designed to be useful on the day a reader opens it.
Open the book. Take a breath. You are not alone in this.
This book is the practical handbook for that walk.
Inside, you'll learn:
- The five signs of the soft slope - and how to know when the decline is real - A complete script for the hospice conversation, with your parent and with your siblings - What hospice actually is (and isn't) - and how to choose between home, facility, and inpatient - The five categories of conversations that cannot wait - What to do - and what NOT to do - in the first 72 hours after a death - How to run a funeral that holds dignity in the room when family dynamics get hard - The 90-day map of administrative, emotional, and relational work after the death - The reckoning that begins after the operational work is done
This book is for you if:
- Your parent is on a downward slope and you sense the conversation about hospice is coming - You are inside hospice care now and trying to make the months count - A parent has died recently and you are drowning in administrative work and grief at the same time - You read The Designated One and want the playbook for what happens next
Written by KV Rao - author of The Designated One and a four-decade enterprise operator who turned his attention to the work nobody hands you a manual for. Practical where most caregiving books are wistful. Candid where most are cautious. Designed to be useful on the day a reader opens it.
Open the book. Take a breath. You are not alone in this.
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