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Contracts Not Conflict
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Publisher Price: $9.99
Publisher: Sapient America
Published: Jun 17 2026
Pages: 88
Weight: 0.28
Height: 0.18 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Every household runs on an agreement. It builds itself out of every rule that shifted under pressure, every consequence that was stated and never enforced, every conversation that became the rest of the evening. Your teenager isn't fighting the system, they're following it. They've been following it accurately for years, and it's producing everything you've been seeing.
Contracts Not Conflict makes the case that the solution to the daily friction of parenting a teenager isn't a better conversation, it's a better structure. A written agreement that both parties helped build, that lives on paper rather than in memory, and that already answers the questions before they come up under pressure.
Drawing on thirty years of research in behavioral science, developmental neuroscience, and the psychology of commitment, the book explains why written agreements outperform spoken ones, why a contract a teenager co-created holds in ways a received one doesn't, and why the teenage brain, which was built to test authority, engages differently with structural systems than with positional ones.
Contracts Not Conflict also makes the longer argument: within two years of leaving the family home, most teenagers will sign leases, loan documents, employment agreements, and financial contracts they don't fully understand. The family contract is the earliest and lowest-stakes place to build the skills those agreements require.
Complete with a five-component framework, worked examples of contracts that succeeded and one that failed, and ready-to-use templates, this is a practical system any family can start tonight.
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