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You Look Fine From Here: Silent burnout, the competence that hides it, and the way out
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Publisher: Independently Published
Pages: 204
Weight: 0.62
Height: 0.43 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Your company spends money on your mental health. There is a portal, an app with a calm blue logo, a training module about spotting the signs. None of it will ever find you.
Not because it is badly built. Because of how it looks for you. Every system that detects distress waits for absence, complaint or a drop in quality, and you produce none of them. You answer within the hour. You hand things in early. You are, as somebody put it last quarter, a safe pair of hands.
This is a book about the version of exhaustion that arrives as excellent work.
In 2026 a survey of more than two thousand employees and HR leaders across five countries put a figure on it. Forty percent were running on empty while appearing engaged. In the same survey, eighty-nine percent of HR leaders believed their mental health provision gave them a competitive advantage, and nearly two thirds watched mental health leaves rise.
Both figures are honest. The gap between them is where you live.
What this book doesIt explains the mechanism.
- Competence works as camouflage, so the better you are at absorbing pressure, the less evidence exists that pressure is being applied.
- Work travels toward whoever takes it without complaint, so the concealment increases what it conceals.
- The condition degrades your ability to assess your own state, which is why you cannot feel your way to an answer.
Then it gives you a way to measure where you are that does not depend on how you feel, and four small actions to take. The first one costs two conversations.
What it does not doIt does not tell you to do less, which you have already been told. It does not offer boundaries as a personality upgrade. It does not diagnose you, and it is careful about the line between this and something that needs a doctor, because the research does not support a confident separation and a book that pretends otherwise is dangerous.
For readers who- Are considered reliable, and deserve the reputation.
- Cannot remember the last time they renegotiated a deadline.
- Have noticed that holidays no longer produce a difference that lasts.
- Have quietly stopped doing things they used to do, without ever deciding to.
If somebody asked you today whether you were all right, you would say yes, and it would not feel like a lie.
That is who this is for.
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