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When Love Wears Hatred's Face: Comprehensive Look at the Relationships That Wound the Soul
Paperback
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Jun 23 2026
Pages: 86
Weight: 0.28
Height: 0.18 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Have you ever loved with everything you had and received pain, control, or silence in return? Did you confuse intensity with love, dependency with commitment, spirituality with oppression?
Millions of people walk through each day carrying wounds no one can see. Wounds that were not born from declared hatred, but from distorted love. From relationships that promised closeness and delivered control. That promised family and produced shame. That promised community of faith and left the soul more alone than before it arrived.
When Love Dresses Itself in Hate is a deep, honest, and restorative journey through the five territories where love can become distorted: the surface-level relationships that shape identity from the very first contact, the friendships that become captivity, the family that distorts the first language of love, the partner who turns promised intimacy into an emotional prison, and the church that wounds in the very place where it was meant to heal.
With a perspective that integrates contemporary psychology, pastoral counseling, and biblical exegesis, Pastor Jerry Badea reveals how love can be distorted until it becomes unrecognizable, how wounds that do not bleed continue to govern the soul for years, and how it is possible to heal, rebuild identity, and love again from a place of truth.
This book is for those who loved sincerely and received manipulation, indifference, or control in return. For those who grew up in homes where love came with conditions they could never meet. For those who were wounded in the church by people who spoke in the name of God. For those who drifted away from themselves in order to survive a relationship and no longer know who they are. And for pastors, counselors, and leaders who walk alongside wounded souls and need concrete, biblically grounded tools.
Throughout its seventeen chapters, the reader will discover why distorted love causes more damage than declared hatred, how toxic cycles take root in the soul and why the soul returns to them, the difference between wounds that bleed and wounds that govern in silence, how to heal the image of God that has been damaged by spiritual abuse or toxic leadership, concrete steps to break cycles and rebuild identity, and how personal healing can become a legacy that changes generations.
Each restoration chapter includes concrete actions to begin the process that very week. The book also includes comprehensive supplemental material with reflection questions by chapter, a structured guide for small groups, prayers for emotional and spiritual healing, identity declarations for daily use, and specific recommendations for pastors, counselors, and leaders who walk alongside healing processes in their communities.
Pastor Jerry Badea is a licensed minister with the Assemblies of God and founding pastor of Walking in His Presence Church in Cleveland, Ohio, with more than 25 years of pastoral ministry. He is a theology instructor with Global University and the Eastern Hispanic District, author of theological and pastoral works in Spanish and English, and a sacred music composer with a presence on the major streaming platforms. He writes from decades of accumulated experience walking alongside wounded souls - not from theory.
You are not broken. You are in process. True love never dresses itself in hate. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. Psalm 34:18.
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