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What Kind of Mother: A Memoir
Hardcover
Biographies GeneralPregnancy & Adoption
Publisher Price: $30.00
ISBN13: 9781954118591
Publisher: Spiegel & Grau
Published: Jan 12 2027
Pages: 288
Language: English
A moving memoir that offers a vital new perspective on adoption--from the rarely glimpsed birth mother's point of view.
What kind of mother gives up her son? Bernadette Murphy grew up the miracle child of her immigrant Irish Catholic family, arriving unexpectedly after her mother's difficulty conceiving and her parents' adoption of her older brother. Three more siblings followed, and as her once glamorous mother sank deeper into depression, and her father struggled to support the family, Bernadette grew up quickly and cared for her brothers and sister. When Bernadette's first love resulted in a pregnancy at age sixteen, faced with limited options and a belief, from her Catholic upbringing, that abortion was a sin, she made the impossible choice to put the baby up for adoption.
More than forty years later, Bernadette, now the mother of three grown children, was still living with deep-rooted shame and guilt, consumed by thoughts of the boy she relinquished. What did he think of her, if he thought of her at all? Was he angry, troubled, content? As she launched a desperate search for her firstborn, she began writing him letters, describing her life and explaining her decision.
At once an incisive, affecting memoir of a childhood filled with hardship and love and the story of a birth mother's quest to find her son and forgive herself, What Kind of Mother challenges our assumptions about adoption, opening up an important conversation about family, love, and possibility.
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