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Things We Didn't Name: My Giant Fades
Paperback
Publisher Price: $24.99
Publisher: Byion Enterprises LLC
Published: Jul 25 2026
Pages: 134
Weight: 0.48
Height: 0.36 Width: 5.50 Depth: 8.50
Language: English
Things We Didn't Name is a memoir in verse about inheritance, distance, silence, and the emotional weather families pass down before anyone has language for it.
Some inheritances do not come in wills. They come in storms. In unfinished stories. In rooms people leave without explaining why. In fathers who are honorable and absent. In mothers who disappear into a Des Moines winter. In grandfathers sitting at the end of a bar in a harbor town, carrying a life no one quite knows how to ask about. In children who learn, too young, that distance can feel like safety when no one has given them a better word.
Through twenty-four poems and eight songs, Brian Edward McDermott traces a single lesson as it moves through three generations: what a family refuses to name does not vanish. It travels. It changes shape. It becomes temperament, instinct, silence, humor, anger, longing, self-protection, and the private weather a child mistakes for normal because it is the only climate he has ever known.
This is not a book of blame. It does not make villains of the wounded, and it does not pretend that understanding automatically becomes pardon. Instead, Things We Didn't Name walks carefully through the difficult middle ground between accusation and denial. It looks at what people survived, what they repeated, what they could not give, and what their children had to build from what was missing.
Written with lyrical restraint, emotional honesty, and the plainspoken force of lived memory, this collection explores abandonment, divorce, fatherhood, family mythology, generational trauma, Midwestern winters, harbor-town ghosts, emotional distance, and the complicated mercy of finally telling the truth without needing the truth to punish anyone.
At its heart, this is a book about naming: naming the storms, naming the absences, naming the patterns, naming the ways love can be real and still fail to arrive in the form a child needed. It asks whether a thing, once named clearly enough, can finally be set down before it is handed to the next pair of hands.
For anyone who has loved someone difficult.
For anyone who became difficult.
For anyone still deciding what to pass on.
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