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State Knows Best
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Biographies GeneralPregnancy & Adoption
Publisher: Nicole Hayes Books
Published: Mar 16 2026
Pages: 264
Weight: 0.79
Height: 0.60 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
At fifteen, Nicole Hayes was pregnant and living as a ward of the state. Decisions about her life, her body, and her child were made by others. She was told she was too young, too unstable, and unfit to parent. She was expected to comply.
This memoir pulls back the curtain on what happens when the system speaks for you and over you. It reveals the pressure, the assumptions, and the quiet coercion that shape the lives of young mothers in state care. Nicole shares what it felt like to be judged before she had a voice, and to lose control over the most personal decision of her life.
Years later, she is forced to confront the long shadow of that experience when the child she was pushed to surrender reenters her world. What follows is not a dramatic survival tale, but a raw account of truth, anger, accountability, and the complicated reality of motherhood shaped by circumstances beyond her control.
State Knows Best... a Mother Knows Better challenges the narrative often placed on birth mothers. It asks readers to reconsider what choice really looks like when systems hold the power. It speaks to anyone who has ever felt dismissed, labeled, or misunderstood.
This book is for readers interested in lived experiences inside the foster care system, adoption, and the realities young mothers face when their autonomy is limited. It is a personal story, but it also sheds light on a broader conversation many never see from the inside.
Honest, direct, and unapologetic, this memoir gives voice to a perspective rarely centered. It is not about perfection. It is about truth, resilience, and reclaiming the right to define your own story.
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