No More Tears: One Day That Changed Everything - A Survivor's Story and Clinical Guide to Breaking Free from Domestic Abuse
Paperback
Biographies GeneralCognitionMental Health
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: May 10 2026
Pages: 90
Weight: 0.20
Height: 0.23 Width: 5.00 Depth: 8.00
Language: English
He called it love.
But love does not check your phone. Love does not count the minutes between your shift and your key in the door. Love does not slam your head against a concrete wall.
And love does not tell you that no one needs you - right before you finally decide to believe him.
This book is built around one day. Labor Day, 2003. The day a healthcare provider, who had spent seventeen years caring for other people's bodies, finally understood what had been done to hers-and found the courage, in the exhausted wreckage of a fourteen-hour shift, to say three words that changed everything: Yes. I will leave.
Nati Carrillo, MSN, FNP-BC, lived inside an abusive marriage for almost eleven years. She left without a safety plan, without legal guidance, and without the clinical framework for understanding what she had been living inside. She learned everything she needed through difficult experiences. Then she spent her career making sure the women who came after her would not have to. This is what I wish I would have read before leaving.
No More Tears is both a survivor's memoir and a clinical guide-the only book of its kind written by someone who has been on both sides of this experience simultaneously: the trained clinician who can name the tactics, explain the neuroscience, and provide the tools-and the woman who lived every page of it from the inside.
Inside this book you will find:
- The hour-by-hour account of the day she finally left-and what she saw that she had not been able to see while she was inside it
- The tactics named: isolation, surveillance, gaslighting, using the children as leverage, and the cycle of escalation and tenderness that keeps women inside abusive relationships longer than any other single factor
- The neuroscience of trauma bonding-the clinical explanation for why leaving is not as simple as a decision, and why going back does not make you weak
- The safety plan she did not have-broken down into specific, actionable steps you can build before you need it
- The legal rights she had to bleed to learn-including protective orders, emergency custody, and free legal resources
- The honest truth about what healing actually looks like - not a fairy tale, but the real account of survival, rebuilding, and breaking the cycle for the next generation
If you are reading this in an unsafe situation - if someone has made your world smaller, your voice quieter, your body more afraid - this book is for you. Not from a safe clinical distance. This message comes from someone who has been exactly where you are.
You did not cause this. You cannot resolve this. You do not have to carry this anymore.
There is always a way out. This book shows you how to find it.
If you are in immediate danger: The National Domestic Violence Hotline-1-800-799-7233-is available 24 hours. Text START to 88788. Quick Exit button at the hotline.org.
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