Find your Match, Build your Love: Why Millions are rewriting their Love Stories: the Step-by-Step System for Finding 'The One' and Keeping

Most relationship books tell you how to keep love. Eric Haven shows you how to choose it - before the tears, before the wedding, before the mismatch becomes a marriage.
Drawing from a painful breakup with Clara that derailed his final year, a friend's introduction to his wife, and 13 years of marriage with four kids, Haven blends lived experience with hard data. Pew Research confirms what he lived: 32% of couples still meet through friends and family - not algorithms. Love isn't random. It's discernible.

Find Your Match, Build Your Love dismantles the myth of the one and replaces it with a framework you can actually use.
The 3-Pillar Compatibility Matrix - Personality, Values, Attachment - gives you a shared language to test alignment, not just attraction. You'll learn why a calm doctor and a devoted nurse can still divorce (their story is inside), and how to spot the same cracks early.
The book doesn't shy away from the conversations couples avoid. The Sexual Compatibility section includes three dimensions - Libido Gap, Language of Touch, Communication Bridge - with fill-in exercises to help you identify if they are a true match.
Haven's core thesis is simple, practical and biblical: Pray and commit the process into God's hands, then open your eyes to look. Faith without filters leads to frustration. Filters without faith lead to fear. You need both.
Readers call it honest, not hype. You'll get:

• The Circle Principle - why your next partner is probably already in your circle
• The Certificate Question - a psychological anchor exercise to test your motives for marriage
• The Location mix - how you can end your singleness by strategic location when searching
• Real scripts, checklists, and 30-minute worksheets you can do on a date night

The Epilogue sums it up: Love is not a feeling, but it's your action that brings along the feeling. If you're done chasing chemistry and ready to build covenant, this is your starting point.
- Advance Reader, Premarital Counsellor, London
Say goodbye to singleness and locate your love to build a strong romantic bond together as partners.