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The Etiquette of To-day
Paperback
Publisher: Katrinabooks
Published: Sep 1 2026
Pages: 172
Weight: 0.52
Height: 0.37 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
OCIETY is a game which all men play. Etiquette is the name given the
rules of the game. If you play it well, you win. If you play it ill, you lose.
The prize is a certain sort of happiness without which no human being is
ever quite satisfied.
Because the demand for social happiness is thus fundamental in human na-
ture, the game has to be played quite seriously. If played seriously, it is per-
force successful, even when the outward signs of triumph are lacking. Played
seriously, it becomes a worthy part of the great enterprise of noble living, the
science of which is called Ethics. Therefore the best etiquette is that which
is based upon the fundamental principles of ethics.
The etiquette, as well as the ethics, of to-day may well be summed up in the
one maxim known as the Golden Rule Do unto others as you would
that others should do unto you. Or in the philosophic statement of it, given
by Kant: Act so that the maxim of thy conduct shall be fit to be universal
law.
3 EDITH B. (EDITH BERTHA) ORDWAY
A certain social sense is, therefore, the foundation upon which all concerted
action rests; and this, permeating the character and winning conformity in
the life, produces a social order which is at once the criterion of civilization
and the source of its power.
Every social code presupposes the trained personality, that is, the individual
who is intelligent enough and controlled enough to conform to the rules
prescribed for the good of all. It is only in the common good that true indi-
vidual good can be found. Therefore is it so essential that every man regard
his brother's welfare as anxiously as his own, and permit himself to be curbed
in his extravagances, limited in the indulgence of even legitimate desires, in
order that he may not defraud another, or menace the general well-being.
Not only in social life, but in business, politics, and international relations,
this principle of the common good as the ultimate goal, the supreme author-
ity for conduct, holds good. To it society approaches, now by direct progress
and now by seeming reaction, but ever with a higher evaluation of justice.
This is shown in the fulfillment of both small and large obligations.
Following the rules of courtesy, men give to each other that deference which
each believes is his own due, and each receives in return twofold the defer-
ence that he sincerely gives. Men show, at home and abroad, the courtesy
to women in general that they would wish shown to those of their family,
and thereby the standard of respect for woman is so lifted that even the city
street at night is a safe place for a woman to pass unaccosted, if it is necessary
for her to go unattended.
Rigidly do we hold ourselves to the established rules of good breeding, en-
deavoring to make of ourselves all that Nature will permit; and we are sur-
prised to find that Nature's own gentlemen and gentlewomen gather about
us, and rare souls look to us for companionship, as finding in us kindred
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