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Before We Built, We Submitted: 22 Years of Marriage Under God's Order
Paperback
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Dec 17 2025
Pages: 220
Weight: 0.66
Height: 0.46 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
22 Years of Marriage Under God's Order
By Jean Claude Bajikila Tshibaka
What you build without order will eventually collapse.
In a world that celebrates passion but neglects alignment, Before We Built, We Submitted offers a rare, mature, and deeply biblical perspective on marriage-not as a feeling, but as a covenant and spiritual assignment.
Written from over 22 years of lived marital experience, spanning Africa, the United States, and Canada, this book explores what it truly means to build a marriage that can endure pressure, distance, leadership responsibility, parenting, and changing seasons-without losing its foundation.
This is not a motivational romance book.
It is a theological, practical, and pastoral guide for couples and leaders who want more than emotional survival-they want longevity and legacy.
Inside this book, you will discover:
Why submission brings order, not oppression
How covenant outlives passion
Why mission must never compete with marriage
How to fight without destroying, heal without bleeding, and lead without neglect
How to build a marriage that remains still standing when seasons change
Rooted in Scripture-especially Ephesians 5-and enriched by real-life testimony, theological insight, and leadership wisdom, this book speaks to:
Married couples seeking stability and depth
Engaged couples who want to build correctly from the start
Pastors and leaders under pressure
Families desiring a legacy that will outlive them
Before We Built, We Submitted is an invitation to return to God's order-
to submit before building,
to align before expanding,
and to protect covenant before pursuing calling.
If you are ready to build something that will not collapse, this book is for you.
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