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Thirteen Minutes of Silence: A Guide to Rebuilding Trust, Breaking Generational Cycles, and Finding Identity After Family Betrayal.
Paperback
Biographies GeneralAbuseSelf-Help
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Apr 3 2026
Pages: 120
Weight: 0.51
Height: 0.31 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
This book is a raw, unflinching look at what it takes to rebuild a life when the people meant to protect you are the ones who break you. Kevin Wheeler doesn't offer clinical checklists or generic platitudes; he offers a roadmap forged in the high-stakes environment of 1960s and 70s California.
About the BookBorn fighting for his first breath, Wheeler's life was defined by outsiders before he could even speak. Raised as a white child within the heart of the Black community and mentored by a stepfather connected to the Black Panthers, he learned early on that identity is something you build, not something you inherit.
But the most devastating lesson came at thirteen, when a hidden diary revealed a monstrous betrayal by the man he called father-a revelation that caused his family to collapse and left him raising himself in an empty house.
From Surviving to Thriving is part memoir and part tactical guide for anyone who:
- Grew up in a house full of secrets and quiet suspicions.
- Was forced into emotional parentification, caring for adults before they were ready.
- Uses high achievement or radical self-reliance to outrun old pain.
- Feels like an outsider who never quite fits into any one world.
What You'll Discover Inside
This isn't just a story of what happened; it's a masterclass in what to do next. Wheeler translates the survival skills of trauma-like hypervigilance and emotional regulation-into adult superpowers like strategic awareness and resilience.
Key Themes Include:- The Truth About Trust: How to rebuild your wiring after a catastrophic betrayal.
- Walls vs. Boundaries: Learning the difference between keeping everyone out and defining how people come in.
- The Anger as Information: Using your rage as a map to find where you are still hurting.
- Breaking the Cycle: Practical steps to ensure the patterns you inherited aren't passed down to the next generation.
Kevin Wheeler writes with the sharp edges still on, speaking directly to the Marcus or Diane in all of us-those who have tried therapy or journaling but still feel like the people nodding across from them don't truly get it.
This is a book for the person who is tired of being handed simple solutions for complicated problems. It is a testament to the fact that while what was done to you is not your fault, what you build from the wreckage is entirely your choice.
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