Five years after its first publication, with more than 150,000 copies in print, Final Gifts has become a classic. In this moving and compassionate book, hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years experience tending the terminally ill. Through their stories we come to appreciate the near-miraculous ways in which the dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments; we also discover the gifts--of wisdom, faith, and love--that the dying leave for the living to share. Filled with practical advice on responding to the requests of the dying and helping them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death, Final Gifts shows how we can help the dying person live fully to the very end
Coping with the death of a loved is among life's most difficult challenges. It can be lonely and confusing. Attempting to deny or gloss over the feelings confusion and loneliness of grief only prolongs and even intensifies the pain. A Group I Never Wanted to Join is written for people who are struggling with the death of someone near to them; it is intended to help them see at a glance how grief feels and come to terms with their loss and how it affects them. Marty McNunn's goal is also to help others see what it means to grieve, since no one can really understand this complex journey until he or she has experienced the loss of a significant person. A Group I Never Wanted to Join defines the common feelings, symptoms, and stages of grief, and also dispels some many of the myths about this lifelong process. There are personal stories of different kinds of loss. The book also provides information and resources for those helping for those helping others work through their grief.
Losing our parents when we ourselves are adults is in the natural order of things, a rite of passage into true adulthood. But whether we lose them suddenly or after a prolonged illness, and whether we were close to or estranged from them, this passage proves inevitably more difficult than we thought it would be. From the recognition of our own mortality and sudden child-like sorrow to a sometimes-subtle change in identity or shift of roles in the surviving family, The Orphaned Adult guides readers through the storm of change this passage brings and anchors them with its compassionate and reassuring wisdom.
Praise for Touching the Edge
""Touching the Edge is an homage to love, loss, and the rising grace that comes when grief is transformed into peace. Margaret Wurtele's bow to her son, Phil, is a story we can all recognize within the context of each family's dance with death. Her words can heal the fall of a human heart.""
-Terry Tempest Williams, author of Refuge, Red, and Leap
""Touching the Edge is an extraordinary memoir. Margaret Wurtele writes of the most painful events a parent can ever imagine, and yet she writes so honestly, so clearly, with prose as lucid and shimmering as cut crystal, that the book shines with a quiet grace. I too have a single grown child. I read this book and trembled. But I also saw, through Margaret Wurtele's eyes, a glimpse of the light that guided her through the darkness. It was a privilege to read this book.""
-Susan Allen Toth, author of Blooming: A Small-Town Girlhood and My Love Affair with England
""I happened to be climbing on Rainier the day that Phil was killed, and I often wondered who he was, what he was like. Now, thanks to this beautifully told account, I have a very good idea. And I have an even clearer sense of what it means to be a parent, and a child of God. This book will choke you up, but the tears will be more than worth it.""
-Bill McKibben, author of The End of Nature and Long Distance: Testing the Limits of Body and Spirit in a Year of Living Strenuously
""The experience of love and loss, when shared, can become the alchemy of a rebirth of the spirit in others. In this journey to the other side of grief, Margaret Wurtele is fearlessly true to her experience of loss and makes herself available to be an agent of transformation for her readers. This is the glory of the human story: we really are 'members of one another' whether we realize it or not.""
-Alan Jones, Dean of Grace Cathedral, San Francisco, and author of Seasons of Grace, The Soul's Journey, and Living the Truth
Relates the story of how Dr. Botkin, while using a variation of EMDR therapy, discovered a new therapy for helping patients permanently overcome grief and trauma. Dr. Botkin used this therapy primarily with Vietnam War veterans in his work at a VA hospital--Provided by publisher.
Help and Hope for an Unexpected Journey Do real Christians commit suicide? Yes, they do. And for those left behind, the journey following such a tragedy is unbearably painful. Finding Your Way after the Suicide of Someone You Love is a compassionate and practical guide that addresses the intensely personal issues of survivors of suicide (SOS). This gentle and faith-affirming resource helps survivors know what to expect, especially during the first year following a suicide. It includes personal stories of survivors and suggestions on how to move beyond survival to live life again. Designed for use by individuals, couples, and SOS groups, this book offers help for parents, siblings, friends, and extended families, as well as practical guidelines for pastors, Christian counselors, and other church leaders. Topics include: - What to do in the immediate aftermath of a suicide - Handling guilt and understanding the role of depression in suicides - Dealing with questions of faith and meaning - Creating a support system - Choosing a Christian therapist - Trusted resources and websites
Talk to children about death.
Resolve unfinished business.
Take care of yourself.
Accept the help and support of others.
Get through holidays and other difficult times of the year.
Plan funerals and personal bereavement rituals. How To Go On Living With Someone You Love Dies also includes a comprehensive resource listing and a chapter on finding professional help and support groups. There is no way around the pain of loss, but there is a way through it. Dr. Rando offers the solace, comfort, and guidance to help you accept your loss and move into your new life without forgetting your treasured past.