And Then They Lived Happily...We enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope, and excitement--we've found the 'one', so we plan and forge our futures together. But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undone; they don't work out. Commonly, we view this as a personal failure, rather than an opportunity. And instead of honoring what we once meant to each other, we hoard bitterness and anger, stewing in shame and resentment. Sometimes even lashing out in destructive and hurtful ways, despite the fact that we're good people at heart. That's natural: we're almost biologically primed to respond this way. Yet there is another path to the end of a relationship--one filled with mutual respect, kindness, and deep caring. Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in The One and creator of the groundbreaking method, Conscious Uncoupling, provides the valuable skills and tools for you to travel this challenging terrain with these five thoughtful and thought-provoking steps:
Step 1: Find Emotional Freedom
Step 2: Reclaim Your Power and Your Life
Step 3: Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart
Step 4: Become a Love Alchemist
Step 5: Create Your Happy Even After Life This paradigm-shifting guide will steer you away from a bitter end and toward a new life that's empowered and flourishing.
"Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book--a gift to us all."
--Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger
A staggering number of couples in America--about 70 percent--have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship.
Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriage--and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology--this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.
There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self-respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. This book helps readers survive this crisis.
Infidelity is at crisis level even within the church. No marriage is immune despite apparent moral convictions. Dave Carder wrote Torn Asunder to offer couples hope, healing, and encouragement in the face of adultery. He divides his book into first helping readers understand extramarital affairs and then offering healing for marriages dealing with this betrayal. Excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people.
Nearly all couples experience seasons of relational stress. But as clinical psychologist David Hawkins shows, these times are predictable and manageable. In fact, they can even lead to positive changes and renewed growth. This easy-to-read handbook highlights important warning signals, helping readers avoid many serious consequences of relational trouble. Couples will discover how to call a truce, create stability, and reestablish trust. They'll also learn to... explore the causes of conflict, including longstanding patterns and recent trauma humbly and honestly commit to the process of change eliminate barriers to growth, such as denial, shortcuts, and simplistic solutions identify and build on good things in the relationship develop new skills for communication and conflict resolution Packed with biblical wisdom and practical information from the counseling office, 10 Lifesavers for Every Couple affirms the value of marriage and empowers couples to grow through their times of crisis.
The ultimate relationship repair from the bestselling author of Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal (So They Can Look Up Your Skirt) and a psychologist with decades of experience
Every committed relationship goes through rough patches. What's the difference between those that move forward and those that disintegrate? Knowledge, effort and a desire to strengthen the bond. In Actually, It Is Your Parents' Fault, Philip Van Munching and Bernie Katz cut through unhelpful self-help trends to lead readers to self-knowledge and to show how:
--Even your earliest childhood experiences dictate who you fall for
--The unconscious aspects of your personality both attract and repel your partners (often at the same time)
--Your history indicates how you'll fight, how well (or poorly) you'll communicate, and how you'll deal with tough times
--To use insight into yourself to fix your relationship
With humor and sound advice, Van Munching and Katz can help any reader on the road to a happier romance or marriage.
"A useful tool."--Library Journal
Revealing where the real conflict lies in a relationship-and resolving it* Breaking the Argument Cycle is a book for all those who've ever found themselves arguing with their significant other, again and again, about money, sex, or even a seemingly trivial topic-when, at its core, the conflict is about something completely different. A longtime marriage and family therapist, Sharon Rivkin has helped hundreds of couples fix their relationships by understanding why they fight. Here, she shows how anyone can use the tools of therapy to break the cycle of destructive fighting-namely, by resolving the core issues of early arguments, which have their roots in childhood and get repeated over time. Presenting real-life stories and easy exercises, Rivkin sets forth a simple, three-step process-Peel, Reveal, Heal-to empower couples to identify and then resolve their core issues themselves, shedding light on what they're really arguing about. This is then followed up with healing exercises. By thus breaking the argument cycle, confusion and chaos turn into clarity and healing-and everyone can learn how and why they get hooked into an argument, how to unhook, and how to develop lasting tools to turn conflict into intimacy . . . even after years of fighting.
Contemporary Issues in Couples Counseling explores the most difficult issues that people in the helping professions face when treating couples and provides concrete solutions for addressing them effectively. Using the revolutionary choice theory and reality therapy approaches to couples counseling, the book shows clinicians how to combine a relationship-based approach with the pragmatism of cognitive-behavior therapies. Both experienced and beginning clinicians will find Contemporary Issues in Couples Counseling ideal for helping clients focus on the here and now, not the past, and for creating treatment plans that meet clients' individual needs while also addressing the needs of their partners.