Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that's been tested--and proven--to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you'll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you'll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future.Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Book of Merit
"Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book--a gift to us all."
--Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger
A staggering number of couples in America--about 70 percent--have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship.
Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriage--and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology--this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.
There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self-respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. This book helps readers survive this crisis.
Infidelity is at crisis level even within the church. No marriage is immune despite apparent moral convictions. Dave Carder wrote Torn Asunder to offer couples hope, healing, and encouragement in the face of adultery. He divides his book into first helping readers understand extramarital affairs and then offering healing for marriages dealing with this betrayal. Excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people.
Nearly all couples experience seasons of relational stress. But as clinical psychologist David Hawkins shows, these times are predictable and manageable. In fact, they can even lead to positive changes and renewed growth. This easy-to-read handbook highlights important warning signals, helping readers avoid many serious consequences of relational trouble. Couples will discover how to call a truce, create stability, and reestablish trust. They'll also learn to... explore the causes of conflict, including longstanding patterns and recent trauma humbly and honestly commit to the process of change eliminate barriers to growth, such as denial, shortcuts, and simplistic solutions identify and build on good things in the relationship develop new skills for communication and conflict resolution Packed with biblical wisdom and practical information from the counseling office, 10 Lifesavers for Every Couple affirms the value of marriage and empowers couples to grow through their times of crisis.
The ultimate relationship repair from the bestselling author of Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal (So They Can Look Up Your Skirt) and a psychologist with decades of experience
Every committed relationship goes through rough patches. What's the difference between those that move forward and those that disintegrate? Knowledge, effort and a desire to strengthen the bond. In Actually, It Is Your Parents' Fault, Philip Van Munching and Bernie Katz cut through unhelpful self-help trends to lead readers to self-knowledge and to show how:
--Even your earliest childhood experiences dictate who you fall for
--The unconscious aspects of your personality both attract and repel your partners (often at the same time)
--Your history indicates how you'll fight, how well (or poorly) you'll communicate, and how you'll deal with tough times
--To use insight into yourself to fix your relationship
With humor and sound advice, Van Munching and Katz can help any reader on the road to a happier romance or marriage.
"A useful tool."--Library Journal
Revealing where the real conflict lies in a relationship--and resolving it* Breaking the Argument Cycle is a book for all those who've ever found themselves arguing with their significant other, again and again, about money, sex, or even a seemingly trivial topic--when, at its core, the conflict is about something completely different. A longtime marriage and family therapist, Sharon Rivkin has helped hundreds of couples fix their relationships by understanding why they fight. Here, she shows how anyone can use the tools of therapy to break the cycle of destructive fighting--namely, by resolving the core issues of early arguments, which have their roots in childhood and get repeated over time. Presenting real-life stories and easy exercises, Rivkin sets forth a simple, three-step process--Peel, Reveal, Heal--to empower couples to identify and then resolve their core issues themselves, shedding light on what they're really arguing about. This is then followed up with healing exercises. By thus breaking the argument cycle, confusion and chaos turn into clarity and healing--and everyone can learn how and why they get hooked into an argument, how to unhook, and how to develop lasting tools to turn conflict into intimacy . . . even after years of fighting.
Breakups are an unfortunate but inevitable part of every woman's life, and there's no denying that the heartache experienced after the ending of a serious relationship can be excruciating. But it doesn't have to feel insurmountable, and there is always hope to be found.In The Breakup Bible, psychotherapist and breakup expert Rachel Sussman reveals the secrets every woman needs to get her life back on track. Drawing on hundreds of counseling sessions she's conducted with women at all stages of recovery, Sussman developed a proven 3-phase process for healing from a breakup. The Breakup Bible takes women through Healing, Understanding, and Transformation, with new perspectives and advice from real, healed women at each step. Sussman's plan for getting over the end of a relationship is revolutionary and sound, complete with steps for creating a personalized Love Map, a vital and groundbreaking tool for moving on after a breakup. The Breakup Bible proves that it is possible to not only survive a breakup, but to emerge from one as an even stronger, empowered woman.