Peacemaking As a Spiritual Path
Paperback ISBN: 159143257x
"Practices for openhearted speaking and devout listening to restore harmony in families, relationships, schools, workplaces, and communities [bullet] Details how to approach life with a listening heart and create a sacred space for communication [bullet] Offers exercises for new peacemaking circles, ceremonial ways to begin each circle, and peacemaker tools to unmask the needs and feelings behind conflict [bullet] Explains how to apply this practice in multiple ways, with groups large and small People are afraid of conflict: it is something "bad" that must be managed and resolved. In the face of conflict we focus only on facts--who's at fault and who should be punished--rather than seeking to restore harmony. But conflict is inevitable and presents an opportunity to establish deeper connections with others. By learning to speak honestly and listen devoutly, we can overcome our culture's hierarchical and punitive approach to conflict. We can learn to relate to each other in a sacred manner andcreate relationships and communities that are egalitarian, liberating, and transformational. Revealing that we are all peacemakers at heart, Steve Beyer details how to approach life with a listening heart and create a safe and sacred space for communication: the peacemaking circle, centered on the talking stick. Whoever holds the talking stick gets to speak. There are no interruptions, no questions, no challenges, no comments. People speak one at a time, honestly from their hearts, and they listen devoutly with their hearts to each person who speaks. And, as Beyer shows, the effect can be miraculous. The author explains how to apply this practice with groups large and small to deepen relationships, heal old wounds, and restore harmony among families, spouses, classmates, coworkers, and communities. Sharing stories from his work as a peacemaker, he offers exercises for new talking stick circles, ceremonial ways to begin each circle, and tools to ensure the telling of complete stories in cases of conflict. He addresses the nature of apology, forgiveness, and the urge for revenge, and he explores the spiritual challenges faced by those who walk the peace path. Exploring the shamanic roots of the talking stick practice, the author extends the lessons of the healing circle and the listening heart from our homes, schools, and communities into our relationship to spirit and the Earth"--
How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want
Hardcover ISBN: 0307595919
You are a mind reader, born with an extraordinary ability to understand what others think, feel, believe, want, and know. It’s a sixth sense you use every day, in every personal and professional relationship you have. At its best, this ability allows you to achieve the most important goal in almost any life: connecting, deeply and intimately and honestly, to other human beings. At its worst, it is a source of misunderstanding and unnecessary conflict, leading to damaged relationships and broken dreams. How good are you at knowing the minds of others? How well can you guess what others think of you, know who really likes you, or tell when others are lying? How well do you really understand the minds of those closest to you, from your spouse to your kids to your closest friends? Do you really know what your coworkers, employees, competitors, or clients want? In this illuminating exploration of one of the great mysteries of the human mind, University of Chicago psychologist Nicholas Epley introduces what scientists have learned about our abilities to understand the most complicated puzzle on the planet—other people—and the surprising mistakes we so routinely make. Why are we sometimes blind to the minds of others, treating them like objects or animals instead? Why do we sometimes talk to our cars, or the stars, as if there is a mind that can hear us? Why do so routinely believe that others think, feel, and want what we do when, in fact, they do not? And why we do we believe we understand our spouses, family, and friends so much better than we actually do? Mindwise will not turn others into open books, but it will give you the wisdom to revolutionize how you think about them—and yourself.
121 First Dates
How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!)
Paperback ISBN: 1582705720
"Wendy Newman has made every imaginable dating mistake--so you don't have to. Part guidebook, part personal tell-all, 121 First Dates chronicles Wendy's funny, real-life dating misadventures and the practical wisdom she gained from them. Her tales will find you laughing, commiserating, and nodding your head as you learn how to stay in the dating game until you find the right man, just like Wendy did. 121 First Dates will bust myths, answer age-old questions, and examine pitfalls that make you want to give up on dating altogether. Just when you're about to submit to a lifetime at home with a pint of ice cream and TV reruns, Wendy will inspire you to keep stepping out. Learn how to: -Avoid the most common dating mistakes; -Online date like a true pro; -Date efficiently; -Have an amazing first date with anyone; -Self-care to stay at your best; -End uncomfortable situations with grace, and much, much more! A relationship and dating expert, Wendy dishes up realistic Dos and Don'ts as well as tips for making the most of any situation you find yourself in--whether you want to run, or he's the one. Brimming with humor, hope, and authenticity, 121 First Dates will give every woman the dating tools, confidence, and determination to stay real. How else will you find your happily ever after?"--
The 5 Love Languages
The Secret to Love That Lasts
Paperback ISBN: 080241270x
"Marriage is hard enough for the everyday civilian. But imagine marriage when you're separated by thousands of miles. when one of you daily faces the dangers of combat. while the other shoulders all the burden of homefront duties. Add to that unpredictable schedules, frequent moves, and the challenge of reintegration, and it's no wonder military marriages are under stress. Husbands and wives in all five branches of the military need a special resource to help them navigate marriage in the midst of it all. These men and women who are giving so much for so many need a way to love one another - a way that powerfully communicates to the heart.The 5 Love Languages has a successful track record of helping military couples heal broken relationships and strengthen healthy relationships. Now this #1 New York Times bestseller has been adapted specifically for military couples.Special features of the Military Edition include: Stories of military couples from every branch of service who have found ways to use the 5 love languages in their unique lifestyles A Decoding Deployments section at the end of each love language chapter, offering tips on how to express love when you are apart. A new chapter, Love Language Scramblers, explains how to speak thelove languages through some of the most challenging times of a military marriage. An updated Q&A section to include questions specific to military marriage. The 5 Love Languages profile will help you and your partner identify your love languages soyou can put the principles to work for you immediately. Guided by input from dozens of military couples in all stages of their careers, authors Gary Chapman and former military wife Jocelyn Green offer you an unparalleled tool for your marriage with The 5 Love Languages Military Edition"--
Addicted to Outrage
How Thinking Like a Recovering Addict Can Heal the Country
Hardcover ISBN: 1476798869
The nationally syndicated radio host and best-selling author of Being George Washington draws on his personal experiences with addiction and recovery to explore how today's America can draw on the examples of 12-step programs to bridge political divides.
The Art of Loving
Paperback ISBN: 0061129739
The psychoanalyst explores the theory, meaning, and practice of love, as well as its significance in contemporary Western society and its influence on the shape and course of an individual's life, in a special fiftieth anniversary edition. Reader's Guide available. Reprint. 25,000 first printing.
The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love
Paperback ISBN: 1585429139
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: * Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back * Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. * Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
Breaking the Male Code
Unlocking the Power of Friendship: Overcoming Male Isolation for a Longer, Happier Life
Hardcover ISBN: 1592409040
A psychotherapist and clinical professor examines modern male friendships and the impact that large changes in the economy and society have had on men's ability to talk about themselves, their feelings and to make deeper connections with each other. 25,000 first printing.
Celebrating the Art and Craft of Thoughtfully Made Packages
Hardcover ISBN: 1743791380
Ideas and inspiration for crafting beautiful parcels for any occasion Michelle Mackintosh is on a mission to encourage people to reconnect with each other. Many of us send care packages without even realizing it – get-well packs, student treats, food packages to expats, clothes packages to charities, family packages to loved ones in the military – the list can be endless. Put together with Michelle's beautiful collage aesthetic, Care Packages brings back the art of crafting packages with love and care. The book is split into several chapters including reasons to send a care package, types of care packages, delivery, what to include and projects on how to design, craft, and decorate your care package. Projects are easy to achieve with step-by-step photography and instructions. This book will inspire a sense of time, love, and affection when corresponding with a loved one.